Have you ever tried to do something new? You put yourself out there in a new relationship or start a new job or decide to have a child or invest in a new business venture. It starts off really exciting. You have a dream of your future, you can see it, even feel it. But then reality sets in. You run into obstacles and get scared. Maybe you even wonder if you made a huge mistake.
If you’ve been there, you know what I’m talking about. The only people who struggle to relate to this question are those who avoid taking risks. But even those who “play it safe” eventually find themselves facing a risk now and then. It’s unavoidable.
Every new venture in life is about taking risks. It’s the nature of heading into the great unknown!
When making changes in your life, here are 3 significant challenges you will face:
Unrealistic Expectations: There is a tendency to underestimate the amount of time and work something new will take. When you have a dream or idea, you come from a more optimistic position. In your mind, it works out easily. As a result, you underestimate the work, both physical and emotional, that it will take to reach your goals. Once reality sets in and if you don’t adjust your expectations, you run the risk of regretting your decision and wanting to quit.
Solution ~ Sit before you Quit: If you are wondering if you have made a huge mistake about something, take a step back, breathe, and then consider your expectations. Are your expectations realistic? Are you being patient with the process? Do you need to include some downtime for the stress of change? Consider from a place of calm and then move forward.
Fear of Failure: Anything you begin will have its share amount of failure. If you’re like most of us, you don’t like to fail. It feels terrible. When you get too close to feeling failure, your defenses kick in and work hard to avoid it, even justifying things. You might even convince yourself you regret starting this new dream and want to quit.
Solution ~ Failure is Success: Fear of failure is an effort to live in an illusion of things, rather than the reality. But without failure, there is no success. Failure is your most powerful teacher. When you feel that uncomfortable feeling, take a step back, breathe, and consider your fears. Do you often find yourself feeling defensive in situations? Do you struggle to say “I’m sorry” or “I made a mistake?” Are you hard on yourself? Consider from a place of calm and then move forward.
Difficulty Letting Go: Whenever you try something new, the work to get there inevitably leads to a new you. You are growing and the way you did things before is changing, which is natural and good. In fact, it is necessary to do things differently. This is where you might get stuck because you find it difficult to let go of old patterns, relationships, or ways of doing things. This fixed state will lead to regret and want to quit.
Solution ~ Release is Relief: There is nothing more powerful than to release that which you cannot control. It is natural to struggle with letting go of the familiar but it is keeping you from moving forward and receiving all that you are meant to receive. Take a step back, breathe, and then consider what you are holding onto. Is it getting in the way of your goals? Is it trying to teach you something to help you grow and step even more powerfully into your dreams? Do you need to let go of a part without letting go of the whole? Consider from a place of calm and then move forward.
These 3 challenges are the most common ones you will experience whenever trying something new in life. They are challenges but can be overcome once you know how to manage them. If you notice in each solution, it requires you to take a step back, breathe, and then consider. It also takes one more step, confront the issue. Either within yourself or with others, be willing to address it. Contemplation is the beginning, action is the ending, you need both.
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