We all have bad days. There are days when the stresses really get to you and you need to vent. Whether it’s about your job, boss, or even a client, you need a ranting fest to get all those frustrated feelings out. That’s normal. Venting is helpful and can even be cathartic.
What about those who are experts at finding a negative slant in just about any situation? You know the ones I’m talking about. The co-worker that, no matter how great something is, he or she will quickly and easily rain on your parade. It’s a skill and can even be a way of life.
It is disheartening to share space with a negative person, and it’s exhausting. No matter what positive, uplifting emotions you are feeling, they are quickly zapped and you end up feeling the same negative and frustrated emotions they do.
If you’re struggling with a negative person in your life, here are 3 surefire ways to deal with it:
- Don’t take the bait: when you share something positive or uplifting and the other person responds with a negative retort, the easiest thing to do is not respond back. Often negative responses are like bait, hoping you take a bite and come to the “dark side.” It’s up to you whether you want to go there or not. You have the power to simply not respond, smile, and remain happy.
- Call them on it: if a negative person is persistent, ask them about it. Say something like “I notice you don’t seem very happy today.” The main thing is to be honest without judgment. One caveat ~ if you are going to open the door, be prepared for more managing. If it becomes too overwhelming, suggest they speak with someone more suited to best help them.
- Disengage: walking away can be the most powerful thing you can do. Often, in a work setting, it can be impossible to avoid them altogether, so minimize it as much as you can. Keep the conversation at surface level, get the information you need, and move on. Your emotions will thank you for it.
We all face negative situations in life and it is important to work through them. That’s a given. The problem is not the negative situations, it’s our attitude and approach. I mean, let’s face it, we have all struggled with a negative situation and not made the best of it. But some people prefer living there. They prefer seeing things from a negative place and find fault. For those, no amount of positive, uplifting, and inspiring energy you offer will help. Just like you, they must choose it for themselves.
If you find yourself struggling with a negative co-worker or other people in your life and not sure how to handle it, working with a coach or mentor can make all the difference. Sign up for my complimentary assessment and let’s talk [click here]