“Try not to be nervous” and other bad advice

Have you ever been nervous about an upcoming presentation at work? What about confronting a difficult family member or friend? We’ve all been there. You might feel the pressure in your chest, the butterflies in your stomach, or the tightness in your throat. What advice do others give? “Try not to be nervous” As if you have control over it. Don’t get me wrong. They are trying to help and mean well but telling you not to be nervous is like telling … Continue reading

4 Ways to Love Yourself in the Midst of a Divorce

A divorce is painful, bringing feelings of confusion, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. You will go through a grieving process because divorce is about loss. It is the loss of a marriage, the loss of the dreams you had for your life, and the loss of being a couple. Although it might be tempting to shut yourself off from others following the end of a relationship, this is a wonderful opportunity to treat yourself well. A breakup can be an … Continue reading

When Positive Thinking Feels like a bunch of BS

What? Isn’t it all about positive thinking? I mean, that’s what we hear, right? “Think positive” “Be grateful” “Time will tell” “You are not given more than you can handle” “When things are rough, remember the silver lining” I could go on and on That all sounds great when you are ready to hear it, but if you are not ready to hear it, it sounds like a bunch of bullshit. Here’s how it works. You have a natural instinct to … Continue reading

Five Things Successful People Understand

We all have a dream for our lives, whether we want to get emotionally or physically healthier, build a stronger marriage, increase confidence, become a better parent, or embark on a career venture. No matter how different our individual dreams, each of us has some wish we hope to achieve in life. For many, those dreams are made a reality but for others, it seems we consistently fall short. The sad fact is, most of us will not push through … Continue reading

Dogs Feel Shame Too

Lucy is our little Chihuahua mix. We are not really sure what she’s mixed with but she is truly the most loving and fun little thing. She was a stray. From this picture of her, you would never believe that when they found her, she was covered in mange, infected with parvo, and just had a litter of pups. Thankfully, she was nursed back to health and finally found her way into our home and our hearts! Lucy has quite … Continue reading

Keep Calm and Get Organized: How to Save Money and Keep Your Sanity This Christmas Season

A big part of the holiday season is the hunt for Christmas gifts. However, many people find this yearly pursuit deeply stressful, not to mention expensive! For many people, December is a costly and trying month. Shops and malls are bursting at the seams with heaving crowds. Everywhere signs are tempting us with unbeatable deals and lines are longer than ever. Fortunately, there are ways to handle the chaos and stress. You do not have to throw yourself into the … Continue reading

Are You an Overthinker?

One of the most common things people say to me is “I tend to overthink things.”  So I thought about that (recovering overthinker here).  According to dictionary.com, to “overthink” means to spend more time thinking about something than is necessary or productive.  In a world where we have access to an enormous amount of information, every thought and image has the ability to lead us into a path of self-destruction.  Our brains have literally become an addiction . . . … Continue reading

When Mother’s Day Hurts

Mother’s Day is a day where we celebrate and honor our moms.  Many spend time with their mothers sharing in that mother/child bond.  We show our appreciation for all she did to sacrifice for us; after all, she gave us life and love.  While this may sound nice, for some, just the mention of Mother’s Day or even thinking of mom can be very painful.  There are a number of reasons why this might be happening. For some of you, … Continue reading