3 surefire ways to deal with a negative co-worker

We all have bad days. There are days when the stresses really get to you and you need to vent. Whether it’s about your job, boss, or even a client, you need a ranting fest to get all those frustrated feelings out. That’s normal. Venting is helpful and can even be cathartic. What about those who are experts at finding a negative slant in just about any situation? You know the ones I’m talking about. The co-worker that, no matter … Continue reading

3 Challenges You Face When Building Your Dreams

Have you ever tried to do something new? You put yourself out there in a new relationship or start a new job or decide to have a child or invest in a new business venture. It starts off really exciting. You have a dream of your future, you can see it, even feel it. But then reality sets in. You run into obstacles and get scared. Maybe you even wonder if you made a huge mistake. If you’ve been there, you … Continue reading

Two-Step Process to Confront a Strained Relationship

Did you know that lack of social interaction is detrimental to your health? According to one study, social isolation is as detrimental to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day! We need relationships, we need connections, we need one another. Here’s the thing, you need to make sure your relationships are healthy. Having a toxic relationship can be just as devastating to your health. I often share with clients one way to know if you are in a toxic … Continue reading

“Ghosting” ~ not just for the dating

Have you heard of the term “ghosting?” Here’s an online definition: “The practice of suddenly ending all contact with a person without explanation” The idea is that someone starts connecting with you and then, without warning, they stop. It is pretty black and white. You are talking and then you are not. When it comes to relationships, however, it’s not always black and white. And relationships are not always about dating. Ghosting happens in every relationship (i.e., friendships, bosses,  co-workers, business acquaintances, extended family). Here are … Continue reading

How I tamed my inner critic

Did you know you have an inner critic? Do you know what it says? Even worse, do you listen to your inner critic? The truth is we all have it, including me. And if you’re like most of us, you listen to it far more than you should. Here’s the thing, in some ways your inner critic is actually a blessing. It helps keep you safe. But it is not necessarily looking out for your best interest. Its only job is to … Continue reading

Workplace Conflict: You’ve Tried Everything

“Over 65% of performance problems result from strained relationships between employees” ~ Sloan Group Int’l The majority of our lives is spent in communication with others. So it’s safe to say, conflicts happen. It’s a given. Conflicts occur when one person shuts down and/or is not really listening to the other. Once one person is not listening, we’re doomed to have problems. Here are some things we do when that happens . . . Begin talking past one another Argue, yell, scream, throw our … Continue reading

When Positive Thinking Feels like a bunch of BS

What? Isn’t it all about positive thinking? I mean, that’s what we hear, right? “Think positive” “Be grateful” “Time will tell” “You are not given more than you can handle” “When things are rough, remember the silver lining” I could go on and on That all sounds great when you are ready to hear it, but if you are not ready to hear it, it sounds like a bunch of bullshit. Here’s how it works. You have a natural instinct to … Continue reading

Five Destructive Behaviors Masquerading as Love

Love can be a beautiful thing, especially when we understand it and how it works. Since love is experienced on an emotional level, however, it can confuse us as all those feelings tend to cloud our thinking. What if we believe it is love but in actuality, it is an imposter? Though it is very often unintentional due false ideas of love, it is only when we take a closer look that we are better able to see what might … Continue reading

Fear of Confrontation = Fear of Change

Last weekend at church, as I was listening to the reading, something came to mind that I wanted to share.  With the Easter season upon us, we naturally read the passage where people began to reject Jesus.  But understanding human behavior, Jesus knew this would occur.  After all, He was challenging the status quo. He dared to defy the powers that be and this caused anger.  He even went so far as to state that His good friend would deny Him … Continue reading

He scammed me!!

I was recently scammed!!  Yes, it’s true ~ I found myself buying into his false implications and lies, all in an effort to get my money.  He tapped into the very core of my being, the part that desires so much to help others improve their lives and be happy! For the most part, I am a strong critical thinker and am painfully aware that there are people in the world who will lie for their own personal gain.  But I … Continue reading