“Try not to be nervous” and other bad advice

Have you ever been nervous about an upcoming presentation at work? What about confronting a difficult family member or friend? We’ve all been there. You might feel the pressure in your chest, the butterflies in your stomach, or the tightness in your throat. What advice do others give? “Try not to be nervous” As if you have control over it. Don’t get me wrong. They are trying to help and mean well but telling you not to be nervous is like telling … Continue reading

4 Ways to Love Yourself in the Midst of a Divorce

A divorce is painful, bringing feelings of confusion, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. You will go through a grieving process because divorce is about loss. It is the loss of a marriage, the loss of the dreams you had for your life, and the loss of being a couple. Although it might be tempting to shut yourself off from others following the end of a relationship, this is a wonderful opportunity to treat yourself well. A breakup can be an … Continue reading


The author of this is unknown, but I felt it bears sharing, enjoy! In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: “What kind of man are you looking for?” She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, “Do you really want to know?” Reluctantly, he said, “Yes.” She began to expound: “As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man … Continue reading

Dogs Feel Shame Too

Lucy is our little Chihuahua mix. We are not really sure what she’s mixed with but she is truly the most loving and fun little thing. She was a stray. From this picture of her, you would never believe that when they found her, she was covered in mange, infected with parvo, and just had a litter of pups. Thankfully, she was nursed back to health and finally found her way into our home and our hearts! Lucy has quite … Continue reading

Relationship Barriers and How to Overcome Them

Amazing things are happening in the world. We have wonderful research helping to understand ourselves and the world around us and we are learning more than ever before. Despite how much we have learned, however, there is one thing that we still struggle to master ~ relationships. As we attempt to work through conflicts, the potential for hurt and tension is very real and can sometimes be devastating. After all, it has created wars between couples, families and even countries. … Continue reading

How can I forgive . . . ?

Most of us know or understand on an intellectual level that forgiveness is good for the soul. Unfortunately, it’s our heart that tends to struggle with this truth.  We often ask ourselves the following questions: “How can I forgive my parents when they were so abusive to me when I was growing up?” “How can I forgive my spouse for cheating on me?” “How can I forgive my best friend for abandoning me?” “How can I forgive abusers and manipulators … Continue reading

Are You an Overthinker?

One of the most common things people say to me is “I tend to overthink things.”  So I thought about that (recovering overthinker here).  According to dictionary.com, to “overthink” means to spend more time thinking about something than is necessary or productive.  In a world where we have access to an enormous amount of information, every thought and image has the ability to lead us into a path of self-destruction.  Our brains have literally become an addiction . . . … Continue reading

When Mother’s Day Hurts

Mother’s Day is a day where we celebrate and honor our moms.  Many spend time with their mothers sharing in that mother/child bond.  We show our appreciation for all she did to sacrifice for us; after all, she gave us life and love.  While this may sound nice, for some, just the mention of Mother’s Day or even thinking of mom can be very painful.  There are a number of reasons why this might be happening. For some of you, … Continue reading

Spring: A Time of Renewal

Many people have an incredibly hard time during the winter months, particularly if they live in colder regions.  The short, dark days can trigger melancholic moods, leading to profound feelings of lethargy and pessimism.  Others may struggle with financial worries which quickly set in after the expense of the holidays.  Meanwhile, we all face pervasive trials that threaten to undermine happiness at any time of year.  Whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, adjusting to the end … Continue reading