I have a dear friend I recently connected with and have come to know these past few months. With a beautiful spirit, we often refer to one another as “power sisters.” With the gift of simply being present, we support each other through listening, sharing, clarifying, and offering feedback as we reveal our hopes, dreams, fears, and triumphs. It is the gift of relationship.
Recently we decided I would visit her for some much needed ”girl” time. She mentioned looking around to see what was happening in her area, and then inquired about ideas for fun. As we were chatting I sensed concern. I asked and yes, she was worried. She seemed to feel a need to make sure that, while visiting, I would be entertained, as if being together was not enough. I shared that it was no problem if we found something to do or if we simply shared the weekend together in the simplicity of quiet. Either way was fine with me.
This conversation led me to wonder . . . when did having fun become priority over spending time together? There was a time when the relationship was more important and entertainment was simply a by-product of togetherness but that has reversed. Our expectations shifted where entertainment is now the main reason we connect. After all, if it isn’t fun, why bother?
I see it in many subtle and even not so subtle ways. There is a deep belief that life is about being entertained. We seek it through social media with funny videos, interesting status updates, TV shows, video gaming, and more. We are immersed in an “entertain me” culture where spending time for the sake of simply spending time (and nothing else) feels completely foreign and uncomfortable, or worse, “not worth my time”.
We have lost the art of togetherness.
What does togetherness look like? It’s being with someone else in the same space and not feeling as if the air needs to be filled with noise. It’s where people share sacred moments . . . breathing . . . reading . . . working on a hobby . . . doing whatever each feels like doing and feeling completely content knowing that nothing else matters in this moment in time. It is realizing how lucky you are to have this person in your life.
In our youth, we understood the value of spending time together. We lived in the moment, we enjoyed it. We didn’t obsess over whether we were or were not having fun. We simply had fun. We were present and open to one another, recognizing the most important point in all of this is to have a friend and be a friend. Somehow we lost sight of that.
After watching videos, reading status updates, or playing video games, do you long for something more fulfilling? Are you ready to experience the true benefits of being in relationship? If so, then you are ready to relearn the art of togetherness. If you are ready to do something about it, click here and let’s connect. I would love to help you find your way back to the fulfilling life you were meant to live!