4 Ways to Love Yourself in the Midst of a Divorce

A divorce is painful, bringing feelings of confusion, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. You will go through a grieving process because divorce is about loss. It is the loss of a marriage, the loss of the dreams you had for your life, and the loss of being a couple. Although it might be tempting to shut yourself off from others following the end of a relationship, this is a wonderful opportunity to treat yourself well. A breakup can be an … Continue reading

5 Ways to be Thankful

The holidays are a stressful time. Your routine is off, family schedules get complicated, plans shift as you figure out who is going to do what for Thanksgiving dinner. No matter how organized you might be, it can easily become chaotic and confusing. To add to that, you have the emotional component of spending time with family. Though you love each other, you notice yourself and others quickly reverting to old patterns of behavior. Past hurts may resurface as adults … Continue reading

“Ghosting” ~ not just for the dating

Have you heard of the term “ghosting?” Here’s an online definition: “The practice of suddenly ending all contact with a person without explanation” The idea is that someone starts connecting with you and then, without warning, they stop. It is pretty black and white. You are talking and then you are not. When it comes to relationships, however, it’s not always black and white. And relationships are not always about dating. Ghosting happens in every relationship (i.e., friendships, bosses,  co-workers, business acquaintances, extended family). Here are … Continue reading

How I tamed my inner critic

Did you know you have an inner critic? Do you know what it says? Even worse, do you listen to your inner critic? The truth is we all have it, including me. And if you’re like most of us, you listen to it far more than you should. Here’s the thing, in some ways your inner critic is actually a blessing. It helps keep you safe. But it is not necessarily looking out for your best interest. Its only job is to … Continue reading

Self-Worth

The author of this is unknown, but I felt it bears sharing, enjoy! In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: “What kind of man are you looking for?” She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, “Do you really want to know?” Reluctantly, he said, “Yes.” She began to expound: “As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man … Continue reading

Number ONE killer of dreams . . . not what you think

Do you have dreams? What’s on your bucket list? Do you even have a bucket list? (if not, we really need to talk!) I know you have dreams. They might be buried deep down but they are there. The problem is, you go through life thinking these dreams will finally happen yet, somehow, you are another year older and in the same place. Nothing has changed, except maybe your dreams. You start to wonder, maybe it will never happen. Or worse, you keep holding onto it, believing it … Continue reading

3 Powerful Ways to Change Your Life

“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone” ~ George O’Neil You  want more happiness and fulfillment in your life but so often you feel like all you do is race to keep up. You feel like a victim to your circumstances. Though you try to change, things get in the way. You feel defeated. It might even seem like you have it all ~ a good job, a beautiful family, wonderful supportive … Continue reading

Workplace Conflict: You’ve Tried Everything

“Over 65% of performance problems result from strained relationships between employees” ~ Sloan Group Int’l The majority of our lives is spent in communication with others. So it’s safe to say, conflicts happen. It’s a given. Conflicts occur when one person shuts down and/or is not really listening to the other. Once one person is not listening, we’re doomed to have problems. Here are some things we do when that happens . . . Begin talking past one another Argue, yell, scream, throw our … Continue reading

When Technology Fails: “The System Won’t Let Me”

We are so bound by technology that we do very little without it. I love technology. It enables me to write emails, send newsletters, and share articles. That’s the beauty of technology. But boy, when technology fails us, it can be deeply frustrating. Let me share a recent experience I had and how it would have been handled before and after technology (this really did happen). Last week, I wanted to pay a bill: BEFORE: I would write a check, place it … Continue reading

The Lost Art of Togetherness

I have a dear friend I recently connected with and have come to know these past few months. With a beautiful spirit, we often refer to one another as “power sisters.” With the gift of simply being present, we support each other through listening, sharing, clarifying, and offering feedback as we reveal our hopes, dreams, fears, and triumphs. It is the gift of relationship. Recently we decided I would visit her for some much needed ”girl” time. She mentioned looking … Continue reading