“Try not to be nervous” and other bad advice

Have you ever been nervous about an upcoming presentation at work? What about confronting a difficult family member or friend?

We’ve all been there.

You might feel the pressure in your chest, the butterflies in your stomach, or the tightness in your throat.

What advice do others give?

“Try not to be nervous”

As if you have control over it.

Don’t get me wrong. They are trying to help and mean well but telling you not to be nervous is like telling you to make your heart stop beating or to stop blinking while dust is flying around your eyes.

Trust me, if it was that simple, we would be free from nervous responses in difficult situations.

Nervousness is actually your friend. It’s an involuntary response your body uses to say “hey, this situation is a threat and I’m warning you about it”. You actually do not want your nervous system to stop doing its job but sometimes, you do need it to not do it so well. Sometimes, it sounds the alarms when there is no true threat. It’s a misfiring of sorts.

You may consciously know there is no threat but you cannot “make” your body stop reacting. You cannot think your way through it.

Here’s the good news!

There are techniques and skills you can learn to help your body react to situations at levels that are more appropriate to the situation.

One of the most powerful ways to retrain your nervous system is using EFT (aka tapping or emotional freedom techniques).

It is a technique I have been using for a long time now and swear by it.

If you want to learn more about this amazing technique, join our upcoming Women’s Retreat! I will be leading a workshop on this very skill, teaching you what it is and how to use it. You will leave with a very powerful tool that will literally change your life. It did mine!

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